“Mothers should not feel guilty for choosing themselves and doing whatever they need to do to be the kind mothers they need to be” Simi reacts to Chimamanda’s conversation on the “cost” of motherhood

Simi has responded to Chimamanda Adichie’s discussion on the challenges of motherhood.

The singer expressed her empathy with Chimamanda’s motherhood experiences.

In an interview with BBC, Chimamanda described motherhood as a “glorious gift” but acknowledged its associated “costs.” She touched on the “brain freeze” and creative challenges that often accompany pregnancy, mentioning that she might have written two more novels if not for having a child.

Reacting to this, Simi emphasized the need to afford women grace, recognizing that motherhood is a demanding journey.

Simi wrote: “She captured this so beautifully. I remember I had the creative brain freeze too when I was pregnant. It shocked me lol. I’d never felt anything like that before.

“Every mother’s journey is different. Some are happy to ‘lose’ whatever they lose. For others, it’s just a bit too much. Your only job is to support her, not judge her experience.

“I hope we can actually see mothers more and not just the beautiful babies. Mothers should not feel guilty for choosing themselves sometimes and doing whatever they need to be the kind of mothers they need to be. Because, trust me, majority of the time, they have to choose someone else.

“So many moms are struggling with depression and can’t speak about it because they’re afraid to be judged as bad moms. You’re not a bad mommy. You’re a person. And you deserved to be seen.

“Lastly, in my opinion, saying “just have all your kids and get it out of the way” is such a careless thing to say. Children don’t get out of the way – unless you’re not actually planning to raise them.

“prayers and love to women TTC (trying to conceive). I see you too.”