”No matter how successful or comfortable you are, marriage is an achievement” – Nigerian widow says as she remarries

A Canada-based Nigerian healthcare worker, Temmy Omoileri, has described marriage as a major achievement after remarrying five years following her husband’s death.

Sharing wedding photos on Christmas Day, Omoileri said becoming married again brought a deep sense of fulfillment, noting that loving and being loved is unmatched. She revealed that she was widowed the previous Christmas but celebrated this year as a married woman, calling her new union a personal milestone.

Responding to criticism over her comment that “marriage is an achievement,” she stood by her view, explaining that after years of living alone, nothing compares to companionship, waking up together, sharing meals, holding hands, travelling, and planning life as partners.

She added that regardless of personal success, no substitute can replace the emotional and physical intimacy that comes from being with a human partner.

“Have you seen The Bucket List? If not, watch it. Then come back and tell me if you still think marriage isn’t an achievement. I’ve spent five years sleeping alone on a top-tier Tempur-Pedic mattress. I can roll around under beautiful blankets all I want, but the bed still feels empty. Luxury is vague and hollow without a soft touch, an intentional cuddle, or a random kiss. There is no substitute for the feeling of waking up and knowing someone is there to share a coffee and a life with you,” she wrote. 

“Let’s be honest: I don’t want to discuss my next mortgage with a friend who might secretly resent my success. I want a man by my side, a partner who is brainstorming the next move with me. When I see a car I love, I want to ask, “When are we buying this?” Going on a long drive alone isn’t “sweet.” It’s quiet. Too quiet. Real joy feels like heaven, and it looks like this: * Exchanging driving shifts on a long trip. * Holding hands and random caresses while viewing the mountains. * Taking pictures and eating meals together. * Planning beach visits for the summer. We all feel the void of loneliness, yet we pretend we don’t. Stop living in a delusional state. 

“No matter how successful or “comfortable” you are, a dildo cannot embrace you or give you a deep kiss. Touching yourself isn’t empowerment; it’s stressful. Marriage is an achievement. Be comfortable saying it. Embrace it. Love it. Money doesn’t replace a partner; it only makes the journey you share with them smoother. 

“My world is too quiet when I’m driving alone. Even the music makes more sense when he’s in the passenger seat. That is my reality, and it is highly therapeutic. 2026 is coming. Don’t stay closed-minded. Be open, and let that joy come crashing at your doorstep. I love you all.”