If you notice that you prefer talking to other people than talking to you spouse, there is fire on the mountain. Don’t decieve yourself – Pastor Adeboye

Pastor Enoch Adeboye, General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG), has warned that when a spouse finds themselves more comfortable confiding in others than their partner, it signals serious trouble in the marriage.

In a recent publication, the 83-year-old cleric noted that today’s fast-paced world, driven by the relentless pursuit of wealth and career success, has taken a toll on many marriages. He highlighted situations where husbands work in different states or countries, leaving their families behind, as a key factor contributing to marital strain. This separation, he said, often leads to emotional distance or even infidelity.

Adeboye emphasized that couples must make a deliberate effort to spend quality time together to prevent drifting apart.

‘’Long-distance courtships have existed for a long time, but now, we have long-distance marriages. In truth, however, a long-distance marriage isn’t healthy for any family. A couple can have a short-term arrangement for them to be apart for unavoidable reasons, but this should not be for long. Many cases of infidelity in marriage result from the absence of one spouse. Sometimes, even married couples that live together practice long-distance marriages. This might be because one spouse leaves for work very early in the morning and gets back very late at night.

”Such couples are living separate lives, and one or both of the spouses are likely to form connections with the people they spend most of their time with in their spouse’s absence. Such connections can turn into ungodly affairs. As a married fellow, if you notice that you prefer talking to other people than talking to your spouse, there is fire on the mountain. When you prefer spending time outside your home rather than with your spouse, there is trouble. When you prefer discussing intimate issues with your ‘friends’ of the opposite sex instead of your spouse, you should retrace your steps and work on fixing whatever issues that exist in your marriage. Don’t deceive yourself by saying, “I’m not doing anything with that fellow; we are just friends.

”Most extra-marital relationships start from casual friendships, and after a while, the devil introduces temptations that can lead to sinful acts. I pray that you will overcome any temptation that can destroy your marriage, in Jesus’ name. If you’re married, spend more time with your spouse and make him or her your confidant. Go out to fun places and take frequent walks together. At least once a month, dress up and go on a date. Book a hotel room or a private lodge for a weekend at least once every year so you can spend quality time with your spouse, away from all distractions. After your relationship with God, your relationship with your spouse is the most important in your life because God has designed you both to become one, as today’s memory verse points out. Be intentional about cleaving to your spouse, and God will bless your marriage, in Jesus’ name.