Kindness is not enough reason to marry a man – Lady tells single people intending to get married, gives reasons

A woman with the Twitter username, @Rene_noire who has experienced divorce has presented the viewpoint that a man’s kindness alone should not serve as a sufficient basis for marriage.

She expressed this perspective while offering guidance to couples who are contemplating marriage. This insight was prompted by a question posed by a Twitter user where married individuals were being asked to provide advice to those who are considering entering into matrimony.

Responding, @Rene_noire wrote;

“I’m divorced so it’s up to you if you listen or not. 

1. Whatever you accept while dating will get worse once you get married. 

2. If he’s mean to his family, you’re in for a ride 

3. KINDNESS IS NOT ENOUGH. I know the bar is low but if a man being kind is enough to sway you then you’re in trouble. Does he have the core qualities you value in a man, i don’t mean a perfect man but a man who ticks most of the CORE qualities. 

4. If you’re desperate to get married you’ll do anything and take anything to stay married. 

5. Compromise is key, don’t expect a perfect man, work with a man who’s willing to listen and grow with you. 

There’s more but I’ll stop here.”

When asked to expatiate on why kindness is not enough for a woman to marry a man, she wrote;

“The reason why kindness isn’t enough is this …

1. A kind person might not share the same values and principles as you 

2. A kind person may not love life the way you do. 

3. A kind person may not fuck you the way you wanna be fucked

4. A kind person may be racist, a bigot , homophobic etc 

Do you get it now?”